Not long ago I read a study that suggested that contempt was the number one cause of break ups and divorce. It seemed like a pretty sound study.
Contempt is defined as “the feeling that a person or a thing is beneath consideration, worthless, or deserving scorn.” Kind of interesting, contempt is not so much about your actions, but rather, your feelings. Most spouses can read your feelings, your motivation, your intent. You may go through all the right motions, but if your heart is feeling contemptuous, often that can be felt in a relationship, no matter how well you disguise it.
Over time it starts to build up until you finally reach the straw that breaks the camel’s back. Contempt kills relationships.
I think a lot of people don’t recognize contempt for what it is. I’ve watched men withdraw or walk away because they are the one who…
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